Warning Signs your child may be a target of bullies
Your child comes home missing things or his property has been damaged
Has injuries he can’t or doesn’t want to explain
Has not interaction with other kids after school
Seems nervous taking a school bus or walking to school
Finds or makes up excuses as to why they can’t go to school
Takes alternate routes home
School grades are slipping
Appears lonely or sad
Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches or other physical ailments
Loss of appetite
Has lost self confidence
Note: Children with disabilities may be at a higher risk of being bullied than other children.
Noticing signs like these are your cue to talk to your child and his teacher or counselor.
When talking to your child be sure to connect first.
Example - I’ve been seeing a lot of news reports about bullying. It scares me. Is this type of behavior happening at your school? Are you or your friends having any problem with others picking on you? Who are some of your friends at school? Any kids at school you don’t like? Why don’t you like them?
Follow up with the teacher and ask how your child does socially in school? Who he is friends with? Does the teacher think your child could be bullied or teased?
Continue to seek help. If these signs are not those of being bullied you will want to find out what is causing them. If he is being bullied take some action steps to rebuild his confidence self esteem and possibly his self defense skills before things get physical.
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January 9, 2017
Raising Fit Kids
This is a great article I am sharing from WebMD
If your child is overweight, chances are you want to help him get healthy. But sometimes that means ignoring popular diet advice. Often, what works for adults may not be best for kids.
“Children have their own set of nutritional needs for healthy growth and development,” says Tamara Melton, a dietitian and instructor at Georgia State University.
The best way to help a child lose weight? Work with his pediatrician to make sure that he slims down in a safe way. But you can also think about these simple steps to help your child -- and the whole family -- live a healthier, fitter lifestyle.
1. Find the right weight goal. Many younger children shouldn’t actually shed pounds. “Since they’re still growing, they may need to maintain their weight or gain at a slower rate,” Melton says. Older teenagers may be able to lose a half a pound to 2 pounds a week. Your child’s doctor can let you know what you should aim for.
2. Say “no” to diets and supplements. Your first impulse may be to put your child on a diet. But unless her pediatrician recommends it, avoid these kinds of major calorie-cutting plans. They may mean she won’t get the nutrients and calories she needs to grow. Plus, many diets may teach your child that certain items are “bad” or off-limits, which can change how she sees food later in life.
Weight loss drugs or supplements aren’t a good idea either (except when the doctor prescribes them). There’s little or no research on how these pills affect children, so they may not be safe.
3. Get the rest of the family on board. Instead of singling out your child, have a conversation with the whole family about how you’d like to make healthy changes for everyone, including yourself.
“Kids learn their habits from their parents,” Melton says. So it’s important to lead by example. One study found that children were much more likely to lose weight when their parents also slimmed down.
4. Start small. Don’t try to overhaul your family’s diet all at once. Instead, try making a few changes at a time. Small, manageable tweaks are more likely to last for a lifetime, Melton says.
Try not to eat at restaurants or fast food joints more than once a week.
Buy more fruits, vegetables, and other healthy snacks and fewer chips, cookies, and candy. If these high-calorie foods aren’t around, your kids can’t eat them. And while you shouldn’t declare any treats “off-limits,” help your kids learn to have them in moderation.
Keep an eye on portion sizes. Large plates and glasses encourage eating more, so you may want to downsize your tableware.
5. Eat meals together. When you sit down as a family (and not in front of the television), you’ll encourage healthier habits. One study showed that children who shared three or more family meals a week were 20% less likely to eat unhealthy foods and 12% less likely to be overweight.
At the start of each week, schedule a few family breakfasts, lunches, or dinners. If you can, get everyone involved in planning and cooking the meals.
6. Fill kids up on fruits and veggies. Produce is generally low in calories and high in nutrients. Children need 1 to 3 cups of vegetables and 1 to 2 cups of fruit each day. Sneak in servings with these strategies:
Have your child pick out their favorite produce in the grocery store.
Blend together a fresh fruit smoothie for breakfast or a snack.
Serve a fruit or veggie at each meal or snack: Top cereal with berries, pair a sandwich with a side salad, and serve veggies with hummus between meals.
Use veggies instead of meat in child-friendly dishes, such as chili, lasagna, and spaghetti.
7. Get moving. Experts say kids need 60 minutes of physical activity every day. If your child isn’t active already, you can help them work up to that goal:
Make exercise a family outing. Go on walks, hikes, or bike rides together.
Help your child find an activity she enjoys, whether that’s soccer, swimming, dancing, or simply running around the playground.
Encourage her to spend time outside instead of in front of the TV or computer.
Our martial arts school would like to invite you to a FREE community event. "Beginners Martial Arts and Fitness Class." This 35 minute interactive workshop will give your child the opportunity to experience basic martial art skills, flexibility tips as well and strength and aerobic training. Martial Arts is an individual sport where kids have fun, learn, exercise and gain valuable self defense and bully proof skills.
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January 2, 2017
In 2017, do you want to lose weight, look better, have more energy, be healthier and improve your memory?
Join the “Clear Nation”
Have a drink of water. You don't necessarily have to follow the "eight glasses a day" rule, but you do want to drink enough water to keep your body well hydrated. You can tell you're well hydrated when you don't feel thirsty and your urine is light-colored. You are drinking enough once your “pee is clear.” Start the day with a glass of water and then get to the fridge or water cooler for a refill every couple hours.
Here are ten of the major benefits you’ll reap if you stay well-hydrated…
1. Weight Loss. Drinking water instead of soda or sugary juices will quench your thirst—minus the excess calories and plus all the benefits of helping your body flush out the byproducts of the fat and other toxins.
2. Skin Elasticity. Drinking water keeps your skin moist, supple, and elastic—thus lessening your risk of developing dry issues like dermatitis, aging skin, and infection.
3. Muscle Efficiency. Being hydrated is essential for keeping those muscles strong, lubricated, and energized. Why? Because H20 aids the transport oxygen to your muscles so they are prepared when exerted.
4. Balancing Mood. Because water aids in body regulation and brain function, it’s also closely related to balancing mood and emotions.
5. Temperature Control. When you overheat; you sweat. And the evaporation of sweat on your skin is the way the body cools itself down and maintains a healthy temperature. Understandably, drinking enough fluids is essential for sweating and replenishing your water supply.
6. Memory Function. Proper hydration will improve the blood flow and oxygen flow to your brain, strengthening cognitive function and memory.
7. Joint Lubrication. Your joints, spinal cord, eyes, and brain are surrounded and protected by water. Remaining hydrated is vital to their well being.
8. Healthy Bowel Function. Water aids the elimination of waste material, making bowel movements and urination possible and comfortable, and excreting waste products that would otherwise poisoned the body and cause disease.
9. Aids Digestion. Water provides the ability for your body to eat and digest food—via the water is in your saliva and within your digestive tract.
10. Better Immune Health. Think of drinking water as your secret weapon to fighting off illnesses, improving lymph fluid within the immune system and preventing headaches, joint pain, muscle weakness, fatigue, and lightheadedness.
Training in the Martial Arts is a life style. Health, happiness, safety, balance and strength are some of the many benefits. Maintaining a well conditioned body starts with good hydration.
December 19, 2016
Raising Confident Kids
It takes confidence to be a kid. Whether going to a new school or stepping up to bat for the first time, kids face a lot of uncharted territory.
Naturally, parents want to instill a can-do attitude in their kids so that they'll bravely take on new challenges and, over time, believe in themselves. While each child is a little different, parents can follow some general guidelines to build kids' confidence.
Self-confidence rises out of a sense of competence. In other words, kids develop confidence not because parents tell them they're great, but because of their achievements, big and small. Sure, it's good to hear encouraging words from mom and dad. But words of praise mean more when they refer to a child's specific efforts or new abilities.
Martial Arts Instructors call this "Stacking". When students first come aboard we talk to parents about avoiding comparing their kids with other kids. In martial arts students, the real opponent or competition is themselves. "In the beginning instructors are "good finders" pointing out each child's strong points and praising them while challenging them to do something more." according to Grand Master Silva.
Once the journey begins, kids gain competence at basic drills, patterns, self defense and free style. They earn and are rewarded belts, stripes and awards for practicing, patience, courtesy, goal setting and more. This "Stacking" of success references gives kids confidence to try new things and reach new levels because they are accomplishing things very few of their peers will ever do. A child that becomes a Black Belt is like a scout that becomes an "Eagle".
Martial Arts is also just fun, healthy, great for fitness and more. The gift of martial arts lessons is a gift that will go a long way.
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January 7, 2017 at 11:30am
December 12, 2016
The Holiday Unshakable Eights for Stress Release and Happy Holidays
1. Walk away from worries. "The rhythm and repetition of walking has a tranquilizing effect on your brain, and it decreases anxiety and improves sleep," says nutrition-and-wellness expert Ann Kulze, MD. Aim for a brisk, half-hour walk every day.
2. Do less, enjoy more. "We go overboard to please others during the holidays: shopping, cooking, sending cards, and attending every event," says George Pratt, PhD, a psychologist at Scripps Memorial Hospital La Jolla in California. "Instead, take care of yourself by saying no at least once—and maybe more."
3. Stick with your daily routine. Prioritize your workouts, book club, etc., and don't try to squeeze in more holiday than you can handle, says Katherine Muller, PsyD, an assistant professor of psychology at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City.
4. Go tech-free. Constant cell phone buzzes and email alerts keep us in a perpetual fight-or-flight mode due to bursts of adrenaline. Not only is this exhausting, but it contributes to mounting stress levels, especially in women. What better time to turn your gadgets off than during a holiday get-together? Enjoy spending time with your family and friends without worry.
5. Turn up the tunes. Anxious? Listen to your favorite music, whether it's Jingle Bell Rock or the latest from Jay-Z. Research from the University of Maryland shows that hearing music you love can relax blood vessels and increase blood flow. That not only calms you down but is good for your heart, too.
6. Fit in exercise. It may be the last thing you feel like doing when you're stressed out, but going for a run or hitting the gym can actually make you feel better. Research has found that workouts can boost your mood for up to 12 hours.
7. Stay Positive. Positive thoughts and thinking transfer to positive actions. Look of the best and make active appreciation part of your daily routine.
8. You may want to consider starting a martial arts class this time of year. I know you may be thinking "What - something new this time of year?" A true martial arts class is all about mind, body and spirit, according to Greg Silva, president of Black Belt Schools International. "You get healthy exercise and flexibility training, a positive atmosphere and stress release." Getting started now will be beneficial for your health, stress level as well as jump start your healthy goals for 2017.
Our Adult Starter Program is designed to clear the mind of any negative anxiety and create a positive mindset. Each class will include resistance exercises, boxing and a combination of martial arts in order to allow you to get rid of any personal or work frustrations. Click the button below for more information on how to get started.
December 7, 2016
5 SIMPLE SELF-DEFENSE TIPS
Practice safety during holiday shopping.
Holiday shopping can frazzle the brain. Shoppers are trying to remember gift lists while simultaneously calculating whether it's better to use a coupon or sign up for an in-store credit card. Personal safety at the mall and in the parking lot is the last thing on most people's minds, but it should truly be top of mind.
Poorly lit parking garages, arms full of packages, keys buried in the bottom of overflowing purses, and other factors can make shoppers particularly easy targets for predators. To help you stay safe this holiday shopping season, consider the following list of personal safety tips.
1. Stay aware of your surroundings by scanning your environment. No matter how busy you are, do not allow your mind to wander. It might seem important in the moment to be making a to-do list in your head, but if you're worrying about appetizers for tomorrow's holiday party, you might not notice someone following you to your vehicle.
2. Even if it means that you have to walk a bit farther, park in well-lit areas. It is best to avoid shopping after sundown, but if you must do so, try to bring a friend or family member along with you. When you park, avoid parking next to vans, trucks with camper shells, or cars with tinted windows. You want to keep your car as visible to as many people as possible. Also avoid parking next to tall shrubs or plants that could block views of your vehicle.
3. Don't wear your bag or purse so that the strap crosses your body. Wearing a strap across your body makes you more connected to your bag. If someone tries to steal your purse, you will be pulled with the strap. You can become unbalanced and put into a vulnerable position, or you could end up in a physical altercation with the assailant. If your purse is draped on one shoulder, you can easily let go of it.
4. Dress casually and comfortably. The mall during holiday shopping season is not the time to make a fashion statement. It is better to leave the high heels and flashy accessories at home. Jeans and sneakers will help you blend in, and if needed, enable you to make a quick getaway. Also avoid wearing large and expensive-looking jewelry that can draw additional attention to you.
5. Don't hesitate to ask a security guard to walk you to your car. If you are shopping at night, and the crowds at the mall have thinned out for the day, taking an extra step to stay safe is always a good idea. Or, plan ahead and pay the few extra dollars to valet park your car so you do not have to walk alone with arms full of bags.
December 1, 2016
9 Things Martial Arts Teaches Kids
1. Coordination and Motor Skills. Kids with good balance and coordination excel in games and sports at a young age. This creates confidence as they are not targets of kids poking fun.
2. Fitness. Everyone needs fitness but not many kids get enough. Training in martial arts builds muscle and burns fat. Kids look better, have more energy and do better at studies.
3. Social Skills. Martial arts classes have constant interaction between kids of all ages. Learning to support others kids, sharing ideas and having fun, expands their circles of friends and makes them more popular with their peers.
4. Over coming disappointments. Kids love to win and do great. They also need to realize that not everything comes easy. They need to work and they need to get over disappointments and set backs in order to accomplish things. Martial arts has built in stumbling blocks that helps with this.
5. Self Defense. We all want our kids to have fun and not be afraid of others. We also want are kids to be safe. Basic self defense skills are important and kids need to gain competence in these skills. We can't expect kids to stand up to unhealthy peer pressure if they are afraid of confrontations.
6. Self Confidence. Martial arts is amazing because kids learn to act confident with a strong posture, talk confident, make eye contact, walk strong and make good decisions.
7. Focus. From day one in martial arts kids learn to block out distractions. They learn to focus their bodies, focus their eyes and focus their minds. Super important in school and home.
8. Respect. Protocol of martial arts lessons is respect for yourself, respect to other kids, respect for adults and respect for authority.
9. Courtesy. Number one is treating everyone with respect. Following the Golden Rule starts and ends with every martial arts
This holiday season think how important these 9 qualities are. Martial Arts is really a gift that's not only fun but really does teach kids a lot.
November 22, 2016
I get a lot of questions from women looking for self defense or martial arts fitness classes. I think both are important. However if you are seeking martial arts fitness and kickboxing you would also do well to train in realistic self defense. I came across this article by Angie M. Tarighi who is a self defense expert and training.
-Greg Silva, Black Belt Schools International
5 Reasons for Women to Take a Self-Defense Course
The very fact that this article, 5 reasons for women to take a self-defense course, has to be written speaks volumes about the collective female psyche of today. As a group, we continue to deny the need for our own self-protection, relying instead on arguments that the law, our spouse, brother, father, etc, should be protecting us. The statistical reality is that the ones we expect to protect us are the majority of the ones committing the crimes. But the reality is, if we expect things to change, than we need to be the principal architects in effectuating that change.
So let's sum up the basic 5 reasons why EVERY female should be taking some type of women's self defense course to ensure her own safety.
1) Crime can happen to anyone at anytime. Whether you want to live in your fantasy world or not, that is the harsh reality. At some point in your life as a woman you will flash across a predator's (mainly male) radar as prey. You will be attacked. You will be alone and you will be vulnerable. And most likely, it will come from the one you least expected. The next question, what will you do?
2) Be the role model for the next generation. We tell our daughters they can be anything they want. How about safe? How do we show them how to protect themselves against rape, incest, assault, domestic violence, etc, if we don't set the example of being strong and standing up for ourselves by being able to defend ourselves - emotionally, verbally, physically and spiritually? If we continue to move in silence about the things that happen to us (rape, assault, emotional battering, domestic violence) how are we going to help our daughters become stronger and show our sons what is and is not acceptable behavior from a male?
3) Become Empowered. I have watched countless women come into my classes as sheep and walk out as determined, strong, empowered women ready to take control of their own lives. A self defense course can't empower you; but it can educate you in showing you the options who have to take control of your life and feel safer in your world.
4) This is true LIFE Insurance. We spend money to ensure our cars, our life, our jewelry, disability insurance, travel insurance, our rental property, etc., but yet we hesitate when spending money on a self defense class that can truly SAVE our lives. Women's self-defense classes have an incredible positive impact on their participants and greatly change lives for the better. Self defense classes provide you with real insurance to protect your life.
5) Do it for those who count on you. If you won't do it for yourself and the top 4 reasons, how about for those who count on you the most - your kids, spouse, parents, siblings, etc? What happens if you are now dead or incapacitated because of a crime? Who takes care of those that you took care of?
Take the time to take care of yourself and empower your life by taking a women's self defense class. You just might surprise yourself with what you are capable of doing. And I guarantee you that you will find a whole new strength and outlook that will improve your life.
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September 26, 2016
You Can STOMP Out Bullying™! REPORT
Don't be afraid to tell an adult. Telling isn't tattling!
You are helping someone.
Who should you tell?
You could tell your parents, teacher, school counselor,
school nurse, coach or any adult you trust. Be sure to tell
exactly what happened ... who was bullied, who the bully was,
where and when it happened. Even if you suspect a kid is being
bullied, it's a good idea to report that, too. Most adults
really do care about bullying and will be glad that you told
them about it.
If you tell an adult and you don't think they are doing
anything about the bullying or if the situation isn't
improving, tell another adult. Keep telling adults until
someone does something to help.
BE A FRIEND TO SOMEONE WHO IS
Just being supportive to a person who’s been bullied is
comforting. It shows that someone or many people care.
When someone is down they need a friend. Be there for the
person who is being bullied. Be a buddy on school grounds, get
together after school, include them in activities, Walk home
with them, sit with them on the bus. Being an understanding
and supportive friend means so much. Show a kid who is being
bullied that you care about them.
Martial Arts Schools World Wide are conducting public
workshops taking a stand against bullying. Our workshop
is fun, informative, martial arts and self defense related.
If you need help against bullying NOW, please call the school for a free private session with a Black Belt Instructor.
Please join us on Saturday October 8 or 29, 2016 for our Bully Proof Seminar events.
August 22, 2016
7 ways to help your child deal with peer pressure
Saying "No" to friends can be hard. Here's how to make it easier.
As kids get older, peer pressure can get in the way of how well they do in school.
Why? By the time they turn seven, children start caring more and more about what other kids think of them — and less about what their parents or other adults think.
Kids who want to get approval from their peers and become more popular will often take part in risky behavior like cheating in class, shoplifting, tagging, drugs, alcohol, and sex — all which can send them on a downward spiral and take them away from focusing on their education.
Here are six other ways to help your child resist peer pressure and stay on the right path:
1. Don’t overreact
When your child talks with you about what friends are doing, you may hear things that upset you. But if you overreact or lecture, your child won’t want to bring these issues up again. Stay as calm as you can, without yelling, blaming, or lecturing. Instead, use these moments to get your child thinking about the consequences of risky behavior: “I wonder if your friend realizes she could be arrested for shoplifting?”
2. Talk about what makes a true friend.
Help your child understand that a friend who is pressuring him to do something dangerous, hurtful, or illegal is not much of a friend.
3. Get to know your child’s friends.
Encourage your child to invite friends home. Having his peers around will help you decide whether they are good or bad influences.
4. Talk about what independence really means.
At this age, your child wants more independence. Point out that if this is a goal of his, he shouldn’t let other kids decide what he should be doing — that’s not independence!
5. Role play peer pressure.
Ask your child what he wishes he could say to his friends if he didn’t have to worry about what they’d say if he said “No.” Then suggest ways he can say it. Keep your advice short and to the point. Remind him it’s easiest to stick with simple things that he can say comfortably. "Sorry that's not me. Not going to do it."
6. Model saying “No”.
When your child hears you setting limits clearly, firmly, and without a lot of explanation, this helps him see that it’s OK to do the same. When you say, “No, that’s not okay with me,” you’re giving your child the same language he can say when someone tries to talk him into doing something he shouldn’t.
7. Get your child in a positive group.
Church and scouts are great. So is Martial Arts. Martial Arts is "cool", they instill confidence and teach kids to fight and stand up for themselves. "Some times saying "no" isn't enough for bullies and peers. You must stand up for yourself even if you have to stand up alone. All kids should take at least 1 year of martial arts for confidence, fun and fitness." Grand Master Greg Silva, Black Belt Schools International
Please join us on Saturday, September 17, 2016 for a free community event.
August 8, 2016
Bullying is all too
real. 5 tips for
Did you know that
25% of public schools report that bullying among kids happens
on a daily or weekly basis? And that 1 in 5 high school
students report being bullied in the past
The good news is that
because bullying has made national headlines, schools and
communities (and even celebrities) are taking a strong stand
You can do your part at
home, too. Here are 5 smart strategies to keep kids from
becoming targets — and stop bullying that has already started.
by: Steven Dowshen, MD
it. Talk about bullying with your kids and
have other family members share their experiences. If one of
your kids opens up about being bullied, praise him or her for
being brave enough to discuss it and offer unconditional
support. Consult with the school to learn its policies and
find out how staff and teachers can address the
bait. If it's lunch
money or gadgets that the school bully is after, you can help
neutralize the situation by encouraging your child to pack a
lunch or go to school gadget-free.
Buddy up for
safety. Two or more friends standing at their
lockers are less likely to be picked on than a child who is
all alone. Remind your child to use the buddy system when on
the school bus, in the bathroom, or wherever bullies may
Keep calm and carry
on. If a bully strikes, a kid's best
defense may be to remain calm, ignore hurtful remarks, tell
the bully to stop, and simply walk away. Bullies thrive on
hurting others. A child who isn't easily ruffled has a better
chance of staying off a bully's radar.
Don't try to fight the battle
yourself. Sometimes talking to a`
bully's parents can be constructive, but it's generally best
to do so in a setting where a school official, such as a
counselor, can mediate.
For real confidence
and safety an ongoing self defense program is a choice of many parents.
Although it may be easiest for parents to tell kids
to ignore the bully, walk away or tell a teacher,
that is not always the safest, easiest thing for a child to do.
Kids don't want to be in fear of school or other
kids. Parents want to make sure their kids
are safe. This is often a have/need choice.
Kids and parents would rather have their kids
know self defense skills and not need to use
them than to not have the skills and some day
For a FREE Bully Proof Martial
Summer Reading Program
June 30, 2016
Everyone agrees that summer reading is important for kids - and we want to make it a bit more fun!
We also know that proper exercise is important as well as becoming bully proof.
We are challenging kids K - 5 to have a Kickin' Summer
Commit to reading a book a week during July and our martial arts school will reward you with FREE Self Defense and Fitness classes for the month of July.
Kick up your reading and Kick up your fitness. This One - Two punch will make the summer fun and rewarding at the same time.
Our Summer Reading Program encourages reading and also helps children stay fit and safe. The fill jump, kick, stretch and have fun because our students not only learn the most but have the most fun too.
Kids in grades K-5 can participate by following these easy steps:
Write down the names of the books read on the form
Take the form to our martial arts school
Receive Free Karate classes all July and a Free Martial Arts T-shirt
Being Active Every Day - kids health
June 19, 2016
Most of us know that kids
are supposed to get at least 60 minutes of physical activity a day. And 1 hour
spent being active sounds like a pretty easy goal, doesn't it?
But as kids get older,
increasing demands on their time can make getting that hour of exercise a
challenge. Also, some kids get caught up in sedentary pursuits like watching TV,
playing video games, and surfing the Internet. Even doing a lot of studying and
reading, while important, can add to a lack of physical activity.
On top of that, during
these years kids often come to a fork in the road with sports. Those who are
athletic might end up increasing their time and commitment to sports, which is
great for their physical fitness. But more casual athletes may lose interest and
decide to quit teams and leagues. Unless they find replacement activities, their
physical activity levels tend to go way down.
But being active is a key
part of good health for all school-age kids. Exercise strengthens their muscles
and bones and ensures that their bodies are capable of doing normal kid stuff,
like lifting a backpack or running a race. It also helps control their weight
and decreases their risk of chronic illnesses, such as high blood pressure and
type 2 diabetes.
So how do you get kids
motivated to be active, especially those who aren't natural athletes?
Kids can be fit even if
they're not winning sports trophies. The key is finding activities they enjoy.
The options are many - from inline skating and bike riding, swimming and
especially martial arts.
When kids find an
activity that's fun, they'll do it a lot, get better at it, feel accomplished,
and want to do it even more. Likewise, if they're pushed into activities they
don't like, they're unlikely to want to participate and will end up frustrated
and will feel like exercising is a chore. Martial Arts instructors are experts
with casual athletes by making it a fun and rewarding choice.
Help Kids Find Their
When choosing activities, consider a child's interests,
abilities, and body type. A bigger child might be suited for football because
size is an advantage. A smaller child might succeed at baseball or might
consider a non-team sport.
temperament. A mild-mannered boy who might not be
comfortable playing football may like the challenge of karate.
Casual athletes: These kids are interested in
being active but aren't star players, so are at risk of getting discouraged in a
competitive athletic environment. Most kids fall into this category, but in a
culture that is obsessed with winning, it's easy to overlook them as athletes.
Encourage them to remain active even though they aren't top performers.
Once again martial arts is a great choice. The competitor in martial arts is
oneself. The goal is self improvement. The additional benefits of a strong
social atmosphere, confidence and of course safety and self defense make it a
choice of parents.
Parents Can Make a Difference
Kids look to parents for
guidance, support, and encouragement. It's very important to set a good example,
so don't groan about your own exercise - make it a priority and look for chances
to be physically active as a family. Most martial arts schools encourage family
participation. If you don't want to participate you can still be a raving fan
and support your child during classes, events and graduations.
Check out our your starter program
Martial Arts Teaches Kids A Lot.
June 12, 2016
How a Martial Arts Program can increase Self-Esteem:
⦁Martial Arts classes use positive reinforcement. Instructors bring out the best in kids by identifying strong points and effort. Kids get feel great about themselves each time they experience classes.
⦁Students practice things they are good at so they find a sense of pride. They are then given increased challenges. Their confidence increases as they discover they can accomplish more difficult drills and moves. Instructors are good finders and remind students of their abilities.
⦁Does the little voice in your child's head often say "I'm no good at this" or "I can't do it - it's too hard for me"? That negative thinking happens to everyone. However a good martial arts program surrounds kids with positive peer pressure and support from other students and parents. When the instructor yells out "What are the three most powerful words?" You will hear the kids respond "YES I CAN."
⦁Martial Arts has three rules. 1. Be YOUR best. 2. Have fun. 3. Improve every time. These rules are used to ensure kids compare themselves and their progress with themselves.
⦁Kids spend time on positive things including exercise, fitness, eating healthy and becoming a leader.
⦁Kids pitch in to support one another in class and to help beginning students. This makes them feel worthy and important. All steps lead to Self esteem.
Kids with good self-esteem are more likely to try again. They expect to do better next time - and usually they do!
- Greg Silva, author of The Silva Solution, Building Black Belts from the inside out". President of Black Belt Schools International
No ties this year
June 7, 2016
Forget the Shirt and Tie this Father's Day. What about fight gear instead?
Martial Arts is the Ultimate Father's Day Gift
1. When it comes to safety on the streets, guys who train martial arts have got it covered. They are well prepared to defend themselves (and their loved ones) from an unwanted attacker.
2. Doing all those drills, repetitions, cardio and bag work isn't just for better conditioning or to become better in martial arts - it inadvertently gives martial artists those much desired six-pack abs (or at least some semblance of them).
3. Guys are passionate about martial arts. It's quite rare to meet a man who can fully devote all of his energy and effort into something that he loves. Even if you aren't a martial arts practitioner, you probably can't help but be drawn into a deep conversation about martial arts.
4. Martial Arts builds determination. Martial artists know that the only way to success is through hard work. Once they have a goal, they'll stop at nothing to make sure they achieve it. Determination is an innate quality martial artists have, developed over time through seasons of both good and bad times in training or competition.
5. Confidence. Through martial arts, a man gains courage over many aspects of his life. He becomes confident in knowing he can defend himself from an attacker, and that he is able to improve himself in many ways. This transfers into every aspect of his life, making him a better, stronger person both physically and mentally.
6. Training is fun. Punching, kicking, sweating, getting out aggression and getting lost in the moment is good for the head and great for the body.
For Fathers Day we have gift certificates, gloves and training gear. Classes for Father's Day are 50% off.
The idea might sound insane to some people: You're going to
pay money so you can go to a place every couple of days and get beat up. But,
joining up to study a martial art can be extremely rewarding for your fitness
and your overall well being. Picking the right system to study is crucial if
you're going to enjoy yourself and, ultimately, stick with it. Here's a quick
guide to help you figure out which one is right for you. And this list is just
a start. There are plenty of other areas of study out there to explore, but
these seven are likely the easiest to find
What is it? This ground-based grappling technique broke
off from Judo in the early 1900s. It really started to come to prominence when
master Royce Gracie used it to dominate the early UFC tournaments. The object
is to put your opponent in a submission hold that either knocks them out or
inflicts so much pain that they have to submit.
What is it? The literal Hebrew translation of Krav Maga
is "battle contact" and we can't think of a better description. It
was developed by the Israeli Defense Force to be used in real-life combat
situations. In addition to punches, kicks and throws, it teaches real-life
scenarios like how to disarm an attacker. Rubber knives and guns will make
What is it? Mixed Martial Arts hasn't been in this country
for long, but it sure has changed a lot since the early days of the UFC. What
started as a collection of fighters from strict background facing off
Bloodsport-style has evolved into a mature sport with a huge following and lots
TAE KWON DO / KARATE
Most programs include a wide variety of activities. You'll
do a lot of drills and a fair bit of sparring, but there are also other things
like relaxation techniques, standard cardiovascular exercises as well as self
Combat and play fighting is well aligned with the primal
nature of many intelligent animals. In terms of evolutionary usefulness, it's
about as functional as any form of exercise can get.
Until you've participated in martial arts, it's impossible
to understand just how frail and "in danger" you would be during a
physical attack or confrontation. Training in martial arts is great for fat
loss and fitness, but it could also save your life.
The reason martial arts are so well suited to promoting fat
loss and improved body composition is because they blend functional movements
with strength training, cardiovascular conditioning, agility, mobility and
flexibility, spatial awareness, and gross motor control.
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May 3, 2016
Well-intentioned parents often try to foster happiness by giving their kids pleasurable experiences. Yet what children really need is to learn how to create and sustain joy on their own, says Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., a noted child and adult psychiatrist and coauthor of the bestselling Driven to Distraction. In his new book, The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness, Dr. Hallowell, an instructor at Harvard Medical School in Boston, outlines five things kids need most to build a lifetime of self-esteem and confidence. Grand Master Greg Silva expounds on how this relates to martial arts lessons.
Connections. Feeling rooted gives children a foundation of security. Children need acceptance and support from peers. Martial arts classes provide solid leadership and support from the teacher and support from fellow classmates and other parents.
Play. Make sure your child's free time isn't too programmed and regimented. Open-ended play, in which children can invent scenarios and solve problems by themselves, helps them discover their talents and use their own resources. Martial arts incorporates development of creativity through kata, drills and self-defense.
Practice. When kids find out what they're good at, they'll want to do it again and again. But sometimes you may have to do some gentle nudging to ensure that your child sticks to an activity and experiences a sense of accomplishment. In martial arts, instructors use PCP. This is corrections via praising, effort, corrections and praising results. Parent and instructors learn to "team up and never give up" on students goals.
Mastery. From practice comes mastery. When children achieve a skill -- - they're further motivated to tackle new challenges. And that leads to a can-do attitude. Progress in martial arts involved continued goal setting and rewards of stripes and belts.
Recognition. Approval and support from one's parents, teachers, and peers for a job well done reconnect children to the wider world. When kids think what they do affects their family, classmates, and team, they're more likely to exhibit moral behavior and, ultimately, to feel good about themselves.
Fortunately, one step leads naturally to the next and the cycle is self-perpetuated, explains Dr. Hallowell. You can lay the groundwork at an early age. Give your child these five key qualities, he says, and you will greatly increase her chances of leading a joyful, meaningful life.
Parents wanting to see how a beginner martial arts class can help their child be happier should look for a free beginners martial arts work shop.
Martial Arts and Autism
April 25, 2016
A recent and growing trend that has provided many benefits for children on the autism spectrum involves their engagement in karate and other martial arts.
A 2010 research project conducted by the University of Wisconsin physical therapy department confirmed what parents were already reporting - in the course of learning martial arts, children with autism essentially came out of their shells and grew more socially assertive and cooperative. They exhibited better balance and motor coordination, eye contact improved and play skills were further developed. Greater self-esteem was also reported, with the added bonus of these kids being able to defend themselves, if need be.
Karate and martial arts assist kids on the autism spectrum with the ability to concentrate and focus their attention in a consistent and highly structured environment. Additionally, parents find that new skills carry over into home and at school. The release of energy in a safe and ritualized environment can bring a child to a new sense of calm. Friendships are formed around a shared activity and that sense of belonging can be the greatest reward of all.
If contemplating martial arts for your child, it's always good to consult with his or her doctor prior to beginning any physical training. Observe the class before committing your child to it. It should be small and solely for children with autism, at least initially. Higher functioning children may be able to integrate into regular classes immediately. Confer with the instructor about your child's needs and make sure you feel you can successfully partner with them.
Once your child is underway, have them practice at home in a no pressure environment and offer encouragement and reinforcement for the moves they have already learned. A demonstration for siblings or other relatives will also go a long way in building confidence and self-esteem.
Martial arts offers therapeutic rewards and parents will enjoy the fact that their child can participate in activities that other kids take for granted. And with summer fast approaching, it just may be the perfect activity to consider.
Fitness for kids.
SHAPING THE FUTURE.
April 12, 2016
Why is exercise or physical activity important for my child?
Just like in adults, increased physical activity has been associated with an increased life expectancy and decreased risk of cardiovascular disease. Physical activity produces overall physical, psychological and social benefits.
Inactive children are likely to become inactive adults.
Physical activity helps with:
•improved psychological well-being, including gaining more self-confidence and higher self-esteem
How do I promote physical activity in my child?
•Physical activity should be increased by reducing sedentary time (e.g., watching television, playing computer video games or talking on the phone).
•Physical activity should be fun for children and adolescents.
•Parents should try to be role models for active lifestyles and provide children with opportunities for increased physical activity.
What if my child is uncoordinated or overweight?
All children, even less-coordinated ones, need to be physically active. Activity may be particularly helpful for the physical and psychological well-being of children with a weight problem.
Why Martial Arts is the best choice for fitness.
It's fun. No parent wants to drag and unwilling child to a sport or activity. Martial Arts classes are exciting, easy for most kids and with a very extreme cool factor.
Martial arts is an individual sport with a team atmosphere. No one sits on the bench.
Classes are effective because they are 45 minutes long and increase in intensity so kids will reach a high level of intensity and fitness. Just what doctors are recommending.
The goal setting and awarding of belts for progress makes this a long term activity.
Parents love the benefits of increased self esteem, courage, self protection, patience and courtesy.
Living with Your Choices
April 5, 2016
It may be a scary thought for some, but there will come a day in every parent's life when they realize that their child can make decisions all by himself. It might be a few years or more before that time will come, but giving your child the tools he needs to make good decisions will be useful to him when it does.
By far one of the hardest parts about making a decision is being confident in your choice. Whether it's what to wear to an important event or occasion or what college to attend, having confidence in his decisions can help your child become a successful adult.
That, of course, is easier said than done. Few of us feel truly confident in all of our decisions. One way to help your child gain confidence in his decisions is to help him think through his choices before he makes them. Talk about the desired outcome he wants and then discuss which of his possible choices would most likely lead to that desired outcome.
One simple example of this strategy is the decision to study versus hanging out with friends. If your child's desired outcome is to do well in school but still spend time with friends on the weeknights, ask him questions that could lead to a possible decision. Is there a way he can have both? Could he study first and then go out to play when he is finished?
While sometimes your child won't have a choice in the matter, when he does its important to let him at least try to come to a good decision by himself. Carol Merchiore's son David learns to make good decisions through his martial arts training.
"David has developed a maturity in making choices," she said. "He has the confidence to make a decision and live with it."
David has already learned one of the hardest parts of decision making: living with the results. Everyone makes "bad decisions" at some point or another, but what's more important is how you handle the consequences. Since you can't go back and change the past, the only thing you can do is make the best out of your situation, which could even work in your child's favor.
One of the most difficult times for your child to do this may be when you decide that his actions warrant punishment. Most of the time your child will probably think it is radically unfair for him to be grounded. You, however, know that sometimes it is necessary so that he can learn from his bad decisions not to make the same mistake twice. He has to live with the consequences of his actions and learn to make the best out of them.
This also applies to the things that are out of our control. While having the right information to make a good decision is usually important, sometimes we are not even given a choice. For example, if your child has a test on something that he is struggling with, he can't choose to take the test later. He has to take it on the day assigned; however, he can make the best out of an unfavorable situation by using the time he has to study, prepare, and ask a teacher, tutor or parent for extra help. The added pressure of the test could even be the extra push he needs to help him understand the material.
While there are many decisions that you will make for your child until he is mature enough to make the right choice himself, letting him handle smaller decisions now will be good practice for when his decisions carry more weight. It will teach him that he is in control of his own fate.
Contributed by Solomon Brenner Author of Black Belt Parenting "the art of raising your child for success"
To see how Martial Arts can teach your child the life skills to make good choices even when you're not there, register for a free Introduction to Martial Arts seminar where your children will begin to learn about confidence, self-discipline, and respect in a fun and educational environment.
When people think of martial arts they tend to think about as something that kids do. You may think of movies like “The Karate Kid” or “Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles”. The reality is martial arts is VERY popular among adults.
In our schools, about 35% of our students are adults, and they are LOVING their martial arts training!
It’s an incredible workout that has lead to many people losing weight, gaining muscle, flexibility, and overall energy and vitality. You could say that martial arts is “Fitness with a Purpose.”
So why don’t more adults do martial arts?
Over the years I have noticed that most adults have two common concerns about why they are hesitant to try a class. They don’t want to get hurt and they don’t want to look silly.
These are VERY REAL concerns, and if you are feeling this way, I don’t blame you at all! I can also tell you that you are not alone!
The Fear of Getting Hurt
Most of us think martial arts training is like what we see in the UFC or MMA world. You are in a cage with 4 oz. gloves going toe to toe. You will not be doing that!
Our philosophy in the dojo is “partners, not opponents”. We train together to learn, grow, and have fun. Yes, we are doing real martial arts that will work in the street; however we practice these skills with control so no one gets hurt.
We all have to work the next day, and no one wants to show up with a black eye or broken nose!
The Fear of Looking Silly
No one wants to feel awkward or uncomfortable, especially in front of a group of people you don’t know very well.
Our classes are broken down in a step by step, easy to learn process so anyone can learn…even if you don’t have any experience at all.
We buddy up new students with more advanced students so you can ask questions and feel comfortable knowing that someone is right there to help you out.
I would recommend coming in and giving it a try or at least watch a class. I think you will see that the best people around are right here at Alexander’s Martial Arts.
This photo is from a recent belt test. I hope you join in on the fun soon!
Confidence is something almost every parent wants for their
child. Confident kids tend to be more outgoing and their personalities attract
more friends. Confident kids tend to be
more charismatic, extroverted, and socially skilled– which are highly desirable
features. We tend to equate confidence with competence. So we automatically
assume that confident people are also more able-skilled or talented.
On the other hand some kids internally are confident but
don’t show their confidence. Rather they hide it from others, These kids are often thought of as arrogant
and even obnoxious, rather than charming or extroverted.Let me paint some
I have a large Great Dane that is almost solid black, she
stands 4 feet tall and has a bark that would intimidate almost anyone. When I walk her in the neighborhood some
people walk on the other side of the street.
Then there are people who just want to say hi and pet her. When they approach me they ask, “is she
friendly ?”. All of a sudden “Thumper”
gets real shy, bows her heads and backs away.
Wow – talk about looking confident but really nothing to back it up.
You have seen the same thing on American Idol. A singer that looks as though he is going to
really rock out a song and all of a sudden starts to sings and you think –
When we worry about our kids in school and bullying many of
us immediately think “if only he or she were more confident, I would feel a
whole lot better.”Martial Arts is great for confidence because it comes with
competence. How? Competence comes from correct fast decision
making, good choices, fitness, health and the ability to defend oneself.
This month is Confidence Month at our school. Please attend our Confidence with Competence
workshop and see how martial arts can help you and your child. Click here to reserve a spot. Confidence is
Contagious – Pass it on and bring a friend or two.
WHY SOME KIDS DON'T DO WELL WITH TEAM SPORTS
February 16, 2016
According to KidsHealth.org team sports can boost kids' self-esteem, coordination, and general fitness, and help them learn how to work with other kids and adults.
But some kids aren't natural athletes, and they may tell parents — directly or indirectly — that they just don't like sports. What then?
Why Some Kids Don't Like Teams
Not every child has to join a team, and with enough other activities, kids can be fit without them. But try to find out why your child isn't interested. You might be able to help address deeper concerns or steer your child toward something else.
Tell your child that you'd like to work on a solution together. This might mean making changes and sticking with the team sport or finding a new activity to try.
Here are some reasons why sports might be a turnoff for kids:
Still Developing Basic Skills
Though many sports programs are available for preschoolers, it's not until about age 6 or 7 that most kids have the physical skills, the attention span, and the ability to grasp the rules needed to play organized sports.
Kids who haven't had much practice in a specific sport might need time to reliably perform necessary skills such as kicking a soccer ball on the run or hitting a baseball thrown from the pitcher's mound. Trying and failing, especially in a game situation, might frustrate them or make them nervous.
What you can do: Practice with your child at home. Whether it's shooting baskets, playing catch, or going for a jog together, you'll give your child an opportunity to build skills and fitness in a safe environment. Your child can try — and, possibly, fail — new things without the self-consciousness of being around peers. And you're also getting a good dose of quality together time.
Coach or League Is Too Competitive
A kid who's already a reluctant athlete might feel extra-nervous when the coach barks out orders or the league focuses heavily on winning.
As kids get older, they can handle more competitive aspects such as keeping score and keeping track of wins and losses for the season. Some kids may be motivated by competitive play, but most aren't ready for the increased pressure until they're 11 or 12 years old. Remember that even in more competitive leagues, the atmosphere should remain positive and supportive for all the participants.
Fitness Outside of Team Sports
Even kids who once said they hated sports might learn to like team sports as their skills improve or they find the right sport or a league. But even if team sports never thrill your child, there's plenty a kid can do to get the recommended 60 minutes or more of physical activity each day.
One sport kids love is martial Arts including Karate, Tae Kwon Do and Kung Fu. These sports are fantastic for strength, endurance and flexibility and no one sits on the bench. All kids are progressing at their own rate and improving with themselves being their competition. In addition martial arts is fun for kids which keeps them going and parents love the addition of respect, courtesy and goal setting being taught. These mind and body sports are great for building life changing confidence and self esteem.
As students progress in martial arts many schools have competition and demonstration teams that kids can join as their athletic abilities and confidence improves
The important thing is to keep kids active and fit enjoying a sport whether it a team endeavor or individual one.
Alexander's offers FREE COMMUNITY EVENTS where your kids can learn important skills like goal setting and safety while learning some basic martial arts skills. CLICK HERE to reserve a space in one of our free events.
February 9, 2016
a lot of discussion these days about fit kids. People who care (parents,
doctors, teachers, and others) want to know how to help kids be more fit.
fit is a way of saying a person eats well,
gets a lot of physical activity (exercise),
and has a healthy weight. If you're fit,
your body works well, feels good, and can do all the things you want to do, like
run around with your friends.
steps only parents can take - such as serving healthy meals or deciding to take
the family on a nature hike. But kids can take charge, too, when it comes to
are five rules to live by, if you're a kid who wants to be fit. The trick is to
follow these rules most of the time, knowing that some days (like your birthday)
might call for cake and ice cream.
a Variety of Foods
may have a favorite food, but the best choice is to eat a variety. If you eat
different foods, you're more likely to get the nutrients your body needs. Taste
new foods and old ones you haven't tried for a while. Some foods, such as green
veggies, are more pleasing the older you get. Shoot for at least five servings
of fruits and vegetables a day - two fruits and three vegetables.
Drink Water &
you're really thirsty, cold water is the
best thirst-quencher. And there's a reason your school cafeteria offers cartons
of milk. Kids need calcium to build strong bones, and milk is a great source of
probably will want something other than milk or water once in a while, so it's
OK to have 100% juice, too. But try to limit sugary drinks, like sodas, juice
cocktails, and fruit punches. They contain a lot of added sugar. Sugar just adds
calories, not important nutrients.
to Your Body
does it feel like to be full? When you're eating, notice how your body feels and
when your stomach feels comfortably full. Sometimes, people eat too much because
they don't notice when they need to stop eating. Eating too much can make you
feel uncomfortable and, over a period of time, can lead to unhealthy weight
screen time? It's the amount of time you spend watching TV or DVDs, playing
video games , and using a smart phone, tablet, or computer. The more time you
spend on these sitting-down activities, the less time available for active
stuff, like basketball, bike riding, and martial arts.
job you have as a kid - and it's a fun one - is that you get to figure out which
activities you like best. Not everyone loves baseball or soccer. Maybe your
passion is karate or kickboxing. Ask your parents to help you do your favorite
activities regularly. Find ways to be
active every day.
of parents, they can be a big help if you want to be a fit kid. For instance,
they can stock the house with healthy foods and plan physical activities for the
family. Tell your parents about these five steps you want to take and maybe you
can teach them a thing or two. If you're a fit kid, why shouldn't you have a fit
mom and a fit dad? Most martial arts schools have family classes and
If you're interested in how martial arts can be part of your FIT KID routine. Follow this link to schedule a starter class for you and a buddy at Alexander's.